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I’ve been absent from the virtual world for a few months and things have changed. I’m “Silent no More” no more. I had an “abortion overload” and needed to distance myself from the Pro-Life movement and social media.

One day, I just quit Facebook and I think I owe an explanation to those with whom I had developed a virtual friendship. It’s not that I don’t care about you anymore but I needed to disappear from social media.

What is the cyber-etiquette when you feel that you have to go? I thought about sending individual emails or a group email but I didn’t want to leave on one side and continue the conversation on emails on the other side.

Some of my reasons to leave Facebook:

1/ Social media and blogging were tools I used for abortion-related stuff. What will I do now? I’m not sure.
2/ I have never been comfortable with sharing personal stuff. I am concerned about privacy
3/ It takes too much time
4/ I wish I hadn’t seen and read some of the stuff I have seen and read
5/ I’m not interested in flirting or buying stuff
6/ I have nothing to sell. I abhor marketing
7/ Social media can be dangerous for people struggling with depression

Let me expand on this last point. In the Facebook world, everything you say is amazing. You post a cute picture or a witty remark and people hug you with their “likes”, “comments” and “shares”, which apparently is the new way to show love.

This can be dangerous if you are emotionally fragile. You may put a lot of time into taking the right picture and choosing the right words for your posts in order to get your daily dose of virtual praise.
You may realize that you don’t shine at home like you shine online. You may distance yourself from your loved ones who didn’t marry your online persona and have to deal with your real, imperfect self.

If you are susceptible to this, maybe it’s time to leave Facebook and take care of your emotional health.

Goodbye for now, cyber-friends. Don’t overuse Facebook and be happy.