On Sunday October 5th, I participated in the annual Life Chain. My husband and I set up the chairs, stroller, blanket and supplies for our four children. I had brought “I regret my abortion” signs for me and a friend who has been sharing her abortion story and ministering to others for decades.
We had people honking, giving us the thumbs up on that busy road. Three teenage boys in hoodies were apparently making fun of us as they were stuck in traffic. Before leaving, they exclaimed: “So, you guys had abortions, eh? Bwahaha!”
More cars, a few puzzled looks, a few honks. Then a minivan slowed down and a woman in the passenger seat declared: “I don’t regret MINE!” I watched her face fading in the side view mirror as the car drove away. I smiled softly, thinking: “I know. I was exactly where you are a couple of years ago”. Did she hear my thoughts? She looked sad, perhaps realizing that for the first time, she said “mine” speaking of her abortion. “My” what, exactly? My procedure? My clump of cells? My… child?
Pro-Life events are often charged with emotion and it can be hard for post-abortive women. This being said, our abortion regret signs are not our scarlet letters: it’s because we have dealt with shame and guilt that we are able to hold them and we do so freely. I’m not afraid to expose myself because I know that there is a bigger God, that there is a bigger plan.
I don’t have the power to open everybody’s eyes on the Pro-Choice lie but maybe, on this sunny afternoon on that road, one woman realized that she was not alone. Maybe she thought that those two women, one old and one young, stood there with that message for a reason. Perhaps she went home and researched “I regret my abortion” and came across Silent No More’s website. Maybe she clicked on the resources tab and found a recovery program.
That’s why we do what we do: to give one person a glimpse of hope in the darkness of the world. Cars keep moving but eyes won’t forget the message that they saw yesterday. We regret our abortions and we come from a place of peace and forgiveness. We can’t undo the past but we can be a link of hope in the Life Chain.