Saturday September 14th is the National Day of Remembrance for Aborted Children. Prayer vigils will be held at memorial sites and grave sites where aborted babies are buried. From the website:
I cannot think about the child without thinking about the mother. Regardless of where she is on her journey, I don’t condemn her. I know that up to 64% of abortions are coerced and that if women had all the information and support that they need, chances are, most would not resort to abortion.
Also, many women develop eating disorders, addictions and other psychological issues after an abortion without necessarily connecting the dots (see Forbidden Grief by Dr. Theresa Burke). Many turn into angry pro-choicers to justify their abortion. I should know, I was one of them for years. Today, I see them in protests, I interact with them online. There is much pain under the mask of anger, “body” and “choice”.
Does the aborted child disappear? Can abortion undo a pregnancy, does it make us go back in time and separate the sperm from the egg? Of course not. Abortion can only destroy a life that has already begun and it causes complicated emotions which, sooner or later, we have to deal with.
The picture featured in this post was taken at the end of a Rachel’s Vineyard Retreat. It shows two certificates of life, candles, flowers and dolls that represent two children lost to abortion. The final step of a typical abortion recovery program is a memorial service. Our society feeds us many lies to dehumanize the child in the womb: “it’s not alive, it’s not human, “it” is part of your body” etc… To start to heal (or to live with less pain), we need to acknowledge our children’s lives, restore their humanity and dignity and then, let them go.
The Catechism of the Catholic Church §2447 says something interesting about loving our neighbor as ourselves. It deals with the works of mercy, which include burying the dead (a corporal work of mercy) and also consoling, comforting, forgiving and bearing wrongs patiently (spiritual works of mercy).
Let us strive to do that on September 14th and every time we interact with post-abortive women. They need our compassion, not our condemnation. When we remember the children and their tragic deaths, let us also remember the mothers; especially those who walk in darkness. Because the light will not come from the pro-choice side.