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A 40 Days of Prayer for abortion campaign was launched by a local Planned Parenthood facility and Clergy for Choice in California. I have decided to respond to the prayer intention for each day.

Day 1: Today we pray for women for whom pregnancy is not good news, that they know they have choices.

Pregnancy is bad news but women have a choice (abortion). Why disguise it with the plural “choices”? Everybody knows that pro-abortion people call themselves pro-choice not pro-choices . Instead of pushing the abortion-choice on women, why not address the real issues: the lack of money, the domestic abuse, the man abandoning the woman and child. The baby is not the enemy.

Day 2: Today we pray for compassionate religious voices to speak out for the dignity and autonomy of women.

Clergy does speak about the dignity of women, especially those who oppose abortion. Pope John II’s has written a lot about the subject. There is nothing dignifying about abortion.
Dolores O’Riordan said: “every time a woman has an abortion, it just crushes her self-esteem smaller and smaller and smaller”.

Day 3: Today we pray for our daughters and granddaughters, that they will always know the power of making their own good decisions.

If only we didn’t leave them alone with such a big decision to make and instead offer support for them and their baby, they would not have to have abortions. Also, abortion is never a good decision. Even when I was pro-abortion a couple of years ago, I knew that I was defending an evil. A “necessary evil” I thought , but still an evil.

Day 4: Today we give thanks for the doctors who provide quality abortion care, and pray that they may be kept safe.

Quality care: recently an abortion clinic closed down in Birmingham, AL because of botched legal abortions.
Keep the doctors safe, I absolutely agree. I am anti-abortion and pro-life. I defend all lives including those of people who disagree with me.

Day 5: Today we pray for medical students who want to include abortion care in their practice. May they receive good training and find good mentors.

Not surprisingly, less and less doctors want to perform the violent and gruesome act of abortion. Let us pray that all doctors honor the Hippocratic Oath.

Day 6: Today we ask for blessings upon the women who pass through hostile protesters on their way into an abortion clinic. May they be shielded from physical and emotional harm from those who do not know them.

As an abortion protester myself, I can testify that we don’t shout nor attack women. We simply stand in front of the clinic and pray for them. Sometimes we offer help if they want to talk to us. Have you seen their faces? They are so sad. Sometimes they tell us that they appreciate our presence because they need to know that somebody cares.

Day 7: Today we pray for the 45 million American women who have had safe, legal abortions. May they stand tall and refuse shame.

Check out the Blackmun Wall on Life Dynamics website with an updated list of women who died from legal abortion. Abortion shame is natural because we know deep down that we did something wrong, that diminishes us. We can try to deny it or blame it on somebody else but it’s always there. We can’t go back and undo our abortion.

Day 8: Today we pray for elected officials, that they may always support a woman’s right to make her own medical decisions.

Praying for elected officials to support abortion rights is a fair prayer from America’s biggest abortion provider.

Day 9: Today we pray for women who are afraid of their lovers. May they find the confidence to turn away from abuse and take care of themselves.

This is a noble prayer intention but we need to walk the walk. What my fellow abortion protesters do is paying for a hotel room, making donations to a Home for Women and in some cases welcoming women in their own homes. Abortion is not the answer to abuse, after abortion the abuse goes on. If we want to help women, we need to attack the root of the problem.

Day 10: Today we pray for women who were joyfully expecting a child, but have learned that the pregnancy is not sustainable.

Women can ask a second opinion. Sometimes one machine can’t find the baby’s heartbeat and another one can. If the non-sustainable pregnancy includes a diagnosis of genetic disorder, why should women give up on their child and have an abortion? And if Clergy for Choice believes in God, why not pray and fast for a miracle?

Day 11: Today we pray for better access to all forms of birth control.

The artificial means of birth control sold by Planned Parenthood mess up healthy women’s reproductive system and cause cancer (see WHO and U.S. National Cancer Institute). Natural Family Planning on the other hand is a safe and efficient way to space children.

Day 12: Today we pray that women know the power of their own stories. May they find their voices and tell their truths.

That’s why I’m writing this blog and I’m a Silent No More Awareness Campaign coordinator. Women have the right to know that abortion is bad for them.

Day 13: Today we pray for the men in our lives, that they may offer their loving kindness and support for women’s difficult decisions.

The Sexual Revolution has enabled men to walk away when their partner’s birth control fails. Left alone, women feel that they don’t have a choice but to abort even if they don’t want to. Were the fathers loving and supporting, they would take responsibility and no difficult decisions would have to be made.

Day 14: Today we pray for Christians everywhere to embrace the loving model of Jesus in the way he refused to shame women.

I wouldn’t be a Christian today if I was feeling judged and condemned by my fellow Christians. Our abortions (not other people) make us feel that we are bad because we have a natural mothering instinct that tells us that it is wrong to terminate our child. Abortion is destroying our very identity by destroying motherhood.

Day 15: Today we pray for parents whose teen daughters are pregnant. May they help their daughters through this difficult time with kindness and openness.

Is this a prayer for teen abortions? Parents should love unconditionally and be there for their daughters. There was a teenage girl from Texas in the news recently who is suing her family who want to force her to have an abortion. Forced abortion is wrong.

Day 16: Today we pray for the counselors in abortion clinics that they may listen with their hearts and offer wise guidance.

According to their own numbers, 91% of pregnant women who go to a Planned Parenthood facility choose to abort. The guidance that they receive must not be in favor of the child.

Day 17: Today we pray for increased financial support for low income women to access contraception, abortion, and childcare.

There is a slight contradiction here: what children will need childcare if women contracept and abort? Obviously low income women need financial support but is ‘non-baby-making sex’ their most urgent need? Abortion doesn’t empower poor women, it just turns them into mothers grieving their child.

Day 18: Today we pray for all the staff at abortion clinics around the nation. May they be daily confirmed in the sacred care that they offer women.

Why do they need to be confirmed? Do they have doubts about their “sacred vocation”? This bizarre prayer intention calls to mind Ginette Paris’s theory about the “sacredness of abortion”.

Day 19: Today we pray for all pregnant women. May they be surrounded by loving voices.

I do too. If they need help, crisis pregnancy centers and adoption agencies are just a phone call away. But coming from Planned Parenthood, we can assume that the “loving voices” are the ones who suggest abortion.

Day 20: Today we pray for the families of yesteryear who still mourn the loss of their mothers, sisters, and aunts due to illegal abortion

What about those who mourn their daughters, sisters and nieces who lost their lives to legal abortion? What about the families of Manon Jones, Tamiia Russell, Holly Patterson , Chivon Williams and Regina Johnson?

Day 21: Today we pray for women in developing nations, that they may know the power of selfdetermination. May they have access to employment, education, birth control, and abortion.

Again, in this pro-abortion prayer campaign, I assume that “self-determination” is about “making a decision to abort”. Why not say so clearly? It’s not fair to discriminate against mothers and mothers to be for access to employment and education. Why not trust and support mothers and expecting mothers instead of pushing the abortion agenda on them?

Day 22: Today we pray for an end to all violence against abortion providers.

I’m praying for this intention too. Does the angry abortion doctor, who pulled a gun on peaceful abortion protesters in 2010 in South Carolina, represent the entire ‘pro-choice’ movement? Of course not and neither do a few violent individuals represent the pro-life movement.

Day 23: Today we give thanks for the strong women in our lives who have given us examples of good decision-making.

A lot of these pro-abortion prayer intentions deal with “choice” and “making good decisions”. We should all work to help women to make informed, well thought through decisions. Before the “right to choose”, they should have “the right to know”: present them with accurate information about the baby, the abortion procedure and its risks and also the other options: couple parenting, single parenting, grandparents raising kids, adoption, foster care and all the free resources available for pregnant women/new moms.

Day 24: Today we pray for an end to hateful language that diminishes the dignity of women.

This is exactly why radical feminists should stop using the slogan “My body, my choice”. Abusive men use this expression against their pregnant partners so they don’t have to take responsibility for the children they father. After the abortion, the abuse still goes on and on.

Day 25: Today we pray for women who have been made afraid of their own power by their religion. May they learn to reject fear and live bravely.

“women have been made afraid of their own power”… to choose abortion? or do they live in fear after their abortion? Either way, fear comes from the horrible act of taking your own child’s life, not from religious dogma. Encouraging us to deny that abortion is wrong is not going to make it right.

Day 26: Today we give thanks for the intelligence, talent, wit, and wisdom of all the women and girls in our lives.

Having an abortion or advising a friend to have one doesn’t make one wiser or more intelligent.

Day 27: Today we give thanks for abortion providers around the nation whose concern for women is the driving force in their lives.

Some abortion providers sincerely believe that they are helping women, others are just making money. In any case, abortion always takes a baby’s life and wounds a mother’s heart.

Day 28: Today we pray for the women who travel hundreds of miles to get an abortion. May their determination be rewarded with spiritual strength.

It just proves that we have failed them if they think that going through all that trouble is their only and best option. I’m afraid that their reward will most likely be regrets.

Day 29: Today we pray that all women will know that they are created in the image of God, good and holy, moral and wise.

This must be confusing for the women you are ministering to. If we were all made in God’s image, it includes the babies in the womb. How then can we take their lives? Are we greater than the God who made us all?
I do not believe that women who are having abortions are bad persons. Also I don’t think it’s right to flatter women to try to lessen the evil and the trauma of abortion. Let’s face it, abortion sucks. There is nothing good, holy, moral or wise about it.

Day 30: Today we pray for women to throw away their secrets and claim their histories with power and truth.

But we can’t “throw away” our abortion secret: we can only face it, embrace it and remember with less pain. This is what I have learned to do thanks to Rachel’s Vineyard Retreat and Silent No More Awareness Campaign. Denial is not a healthy approach, especially for something as big as an abortion. You want power, you want truth? Go to Silent no More Awareness website and read a few testimonies.

Day 31: Today we pray for all discrimination against women to cease.

Discriminating against pregnant women is wrong. We shouldn’t assume that poor women need abortion because they are not capable of raising an “unplanned” baby and achieve their life goals.

Day 32: Today we pray for an end to the stigma perpetrated against women who have abortions.

We inflict the wound to ourselves, with the help of the abortion workers. The stigma will go away when we decide to bravely face our past and accept to forgive ourselves. If there wasn’t compassion, forgiveness and hope on the anti-abortion side, I wouldn’t be here today to address your pro-abortion statements.

Day 33: Today we offer a prayer of remembrance for abortion providers who lost their lives because of their commitment to women.

Similar to days 4 and 22. I copy and paste my previous comments: Keep the doctors safe, I absolutely agree. I am anti-abortion and pro-life. I defend all lives including those of people who disagree with me. Does the angry abortion doctor, who pulled a gun on peaceful abortion protesters in 2010 in South Carolina, represent the entire pro-abortion movement? Of course not and neither do a few violent individuals represent the pro-life movement.

Day 34: Today we give thanks for abortion escorts who guide women safely through the hostile gauntlets of protesters.

I asked a local abortion escort if she was 100% sure that the women and girls she is escorting are not aborting against their will. She agreed that she couldn’t tell and she isn’t OK with forced abortion. If abortion escorts want to help women, I pray that they can tell the difference and stand up for women with unwanted abortions.

Day 35: Today we pray for girls everywhere, that they may have every opportunity for education, sport, health, art, and vocation.

A lot of young girls who have had abortions believed that it would help them to stay in school and achieve their dreams. Those who have not committed suicide and have been rescued from drugs and alcohol will tell you that sadly, it wasn’t the case.

Day 36: Today we pray for the families we’ve chosen. May they know the blessing of choice.

It is unnatural to force us to think in terms of wanted and unwanted pregnancies. And what kind of family have we chosen? A family with empty chairs at the dining table, a family with empty cribs, missing birthdays and giggles. A family with a hole in the mother’s heart. If we must use the word “blessed”, then the choice of abortion has blessed me with depression, guilt, suicidal thoughts and anxiety.

Day 37: Today we pray for women to claim their equality and demand their rights as citizens.

Though women have the same legal rights as men, there is still discrimination. In the workplace, abortion is more convenient for the employer than for the employee. She doesn’t have to take a leave and she is the one who has to deal with the consequences of her decision.
Speaking of equality, is there anything that men have to go through that is as demanding, as horrible, as humiliating and expensive as an abortion procedure?

Day 38: Today we pray for a cloud of gentleness to surround every abortion facility. May everyone feel calm and loving.

One of my friends had an abortion against her will (as many women). Her husband dragged her to the abortion clinic and she begged and she cried and she screamed during the whole thing. She was told to shut up because she was upsetting the other women.
We can force ourselves to remain calm in an abortion clinic but sooner or later, we will have a nervous breakdown. There are too many emotions and contradictions  that we have to keep silent.

Day 39: Today we pray for a contagious love to overflow from our spirits.

When exactly does the contagious love overflow us? In the waiting room where women don’t dare to look at one another? During the agonizing hours of dilation? With the sound of the sucking machine? Or later at home when we bleed and cry and feel empty physically and emotionally?

Day 40: Today we give thanks and celebrate that abortion is still safe and legal.

Legal abortion is not safe. Look at all the studies on mental health issues, suicide rates, infertility, cancer and death. Physicians for Life’s website is very well documented on these subjects.

To conclude, I pray that Clergy for Life and Planned Parenthood realize that there is nothing glorious, dignifying or helpful about abortion. I pray that the God that you are invoking opens your eyes and your hearts on the reality of abortion and the real needs of women. I pray that one day we can all work together for the good of women and their families, without shame and without lies.  As a clergyman friend of mine would say, God love you.